Because they refuse to Learn how to Love; they Destroy Love
Taking away LOVE is also what the very touching movie “Tangerines” shows is a METHOD armies use to keep the soldiers in a terrorist mindset which is no different than those who create and perpetuate a Parental Alienation situation do.
What an alienating father (mother) does who wants to keep the Children alienated from their loving Mother and under his control at the time of divorce is take away love. Instead of the alienating parent and those helping him so they can profit from the divorce LEARNING HOW TO LOVE; they DESTROY LOVE.
When you live in a world without love you cannot heal.
LOVE IS A MEANS OF HEALING.
The movie also makes if very clear that those who create war and conflict based on made-up and unnecessary problems which could be resolved with reason and civility are very psychologically and emotionally sick. Thus, this thought very appropriately transcends to those who create and help perpetuate parental alienation where the Loving Mother (father) and her Children are literally torn from each other based on lies, false stories and schemes.
As the movie “Tangerines” shows that war and fighting unnecessarily is like toasting to “death” not life because those who LIVE WITHOUT LOVE are really killing themselves; their beautiful heart, soul and mind. Then they become overwhelmed with their own suffering, develop a sense of entitlement and think they have a RIGHT to treat others as they please and BLAME others for their own problems.
***There is no love, kindness or understanding; just fighting and control.
Anger, violence, biases which are pervasive in war and petty, made-up fights could be stopped IF those who do not know how to love would learn or are FORCED to learn because otherwise their legacies and life as they know it will be destroyed by their own hand or by those who stand up to their abusive, violent, bullying, intimidating, oppressive behaviors, like me and those like me.
The movie Tangerines, along with a parental alienation situation makes these truths very clear. So LEARN TO LOVE, DON’T DESTROY LOVE. Also, get away from those who are not willing to learn how to love and just want to be angry, blame others, control and create unnecessary problems.
As always, none of this is legal advice or advice of any kind, just based on my knowledge.
-By Sara Hassman, Parental Alienation Solutions, Founder;www.PAlienation.org