Can you believe people actually cherish their “hate” and try to get others to join them in hating and harming others?
Instead of being reasonable by facing their problems; liars, cheaters, manipulators and abusers ignore them because they tell themselves they are perfect and their problems are due to everyone else, not them.
Usually those who lie, cheat, manipulate and abuse have made this THEIR WAY OF LIFE.
Thus, they live “underground” and only come out in public if they are surrounded by those they know or if they have a script or the event is very well pre-planned. That way they know they do not have to be concerned that one of their “enemies” will approach them or tell others about their true deceitful, dishonest and abusive character.
Many even pay others to remain silent so they can continue to lie, cheat, manipulate and abuse others for a profit or just for “fun.” They live a life of constantly looking over their shoulder and never being able to trust anyone or relax. They are so sick and lack a conscience, compassion and respect for others and human decency.
They are also very, very insecure and filled with so much shame for how they have harmed many people with their hate. But, they tell themselves that most people are dispensable so harming them is merely COLLATERAL DAMAGE because it is “necessary” for them to PROFIT. Then, with their money they buy influence and try to control everyone; UNLESS YOU STAND UP TO THEM.
If you do not stand up to them, you will become like them because you have allowed them to control you.
***Thus, MY CHILDREN and many other adult children who have chosen to alienate their loving, law-abiding Mother (father); please DO NOT think you are harming me by being disrespectful, not taking care of your health, allowing yourself to become overweight, allowing yourself to develop bad habits and obsessions. YOU ARE ONLY HARMING YOURSELF, not me.
In my life, I have peace of mind, I have surrounded myself with wonderful friends I have made and I do many fun and enriching activities with my friends and also happily by myself. The fact that you choose to do harmful things to yourself and refuse to get help so you can stop; that is your prerogative. You have your own life to lead and your choices determine your destiny; not mine.
But, please do NOT blame Me for your problems because you have the ability to reasonably address them if you so desire. I can help you but only if you are reasonable and kind and also understand how hurtful you have behaved so not only do you want to address your problems in a reasonable and responsible manner but; you also want to apologize for harms you have caused. If not, then I cannot have you in my life because you will only harm me again and make me sick.
***I can’t control whether you continue to make yourself sick but; I can control whether I allow you to make me sick again; and I won’t.
So, I hope you choose to take control of your life and become the best person you can be having wonderful values and character so you have peace of mind and compassion. I also hope you surround yourself with truthful, kind and compassionate people who bring out the best in you and you do not lie, cheat, manipulate, abuse and control others with your hate and shame which will cause you to lose your self-esteem.
ALL THE MONEY IN THE WORLD cannot buy you wonderful values and character, peace of mind and compassion so you have self-esteem and not shame for you behaviors.
The life you choose to live is your choice so be proud and don’t hate so you blame others for your problems instead of addressing them yourself and taking responsibility so you live with peace of mind and happiness.
As always, none of this is legal or any other advice, it is based upon my knowledge and experiences.
-By Sara Hassman, Parental Alienation Solutions, Founder;www.PAlienation.org