Do you prevent yourself from really knowing others because you only look into their eyes and do not try to look into their heart?
In other words, do you not care about their thoughts and feelings but only care about what YOU feel and what YOU think?
If so, unless you change and WANT to look into others’ hearts and understand their thoughts and feelings you will never find true love because you will be too concerned about yourself and what YOU think and feel and how to get others to AGREE with YOU. As a result, you will never learn to compromise because you refuse to acknowledge that others have important and reasonable thoughts and feelings. You just USE others to mimic your thoughts and feelings so they give them credence and credibility. You may even intimidate them if they try to have independent thoughts which differ from your own.
Wise and kind people try to enrich others so they reach their special potential. They are not jealous of their accomplishments and do not try to hold them back. They try to help others become the best people they can having honest values and character.
***So don’t listen to what a person says, instead, look into their heart so you can understand what they MEAN and ALSO watch what they DO. This will help you determine their values and character and whether you want to associate with them or whether you should burn that bridge.***
As always, none of this is legal or any other advice, just based upon my knowledge and experiences.
-By Sara Hassman, Parental Alienation, Founder; www.PAlienation.org