Parents and their Children, Friends and also Lovers should not be Rivals but should work TOGETHER
Parents and their Children, Friends and also Lovers should not be Rivals but should work TOGETHER to improve themselves and their relationship by growing TOGETHER in positive ways, making many worthwhile accomplishments as individuals and also as a group or couple.
Working CONSISTENTLY TOGETHER to help each other is a beautiful way to live.
This is what a wonderful and emotionally mature Mother and Father does to help their children reach their beautiful potential.
All of us can learn so much from each other, regardless of our age because we each have different perspectives, experiences and special talents.
*** To be in a healthy, sustainable relationship both people must have conviction and a passion to be committed; treating each other with respect, kindness and having fun too; consistently.
Since none of us are perfect, we must set our boundaries and let the other know when they have been disrespectful or unkind and have hurt us because they may not realize it. Don’t ignore it because then you will continue to be hurt and lose your beautiful, special character and become unhappy.
*** Also, a good parent, friend or lover would not want to hurt you; instead they want to love and support you. They want you to grow in positive ways and be happy and help you any way they can. They would never want to use you or harm you for their own benefit. This is abuse and certainly is not being a good parent, friend or lover.
In a healthy relationship the parent and child, friends or lovers have many interests and have depth from many perspectives. They do not stagnate by only accepting one positive perspective because that is myopic and not reasonable or enriching. When we overlap our beliefs and perspectives this is when we create new ideas and find our hidden talents. This is how we create beautiful new colors like the colors of the rainbow. My wonderful daughter loves rainbows and they are beautiful like she is too.
In a healthy relationship the parent and child, friends or lovers allow each other to see themselves and express their positive views freely. They do not demand that they adapt their view or they will be punished or ridiculed. Again this is abuse and common behavior of a sick, alienating parent and those who aid them.
***People who are emotionally mature and healthy allow themselves to become positively influenced which can capture light in a new profound or interesting way.
This is similar to how Claude Monet, my favorite artist captures light at various times of the day by the movement of light. We can do this too with each other if we work TOGETHER and are not Rivals.
This is how a person can transform, if they are willing.
A thin ray of light can turn into a beautiful sunrise and then a rainbow filled with many positive ideas and perspectives encouraging and enriching themselves and many.
-By Sara Hassman, Parental Alienation Solutions, Founder, www.PAlienation.org