To my Son on his 22nd Birthday who I have not seen or spent quality time with for 7 YEARS

To my Son on his 22nd Birthday who I have not seen or spent quality time with for 7 YEARS even though I am a loving, caring law-abiding Mother who helped him make many accomplishments when I was part of his life until the time of the divorce.

What can a Mother say?
The facts are very, very clear that I have an invalid, incomplete and fraudulent divorce judgment; and there are many clear incidences showing BOTH OF US HAVE BEEN ABUSED since the time my Son, who is now celebrating his 22 birthday, suddenly alienated me from his life 7 years ago at the time of the divorce showing behaviors which are very characteristic of a Son suffering from Parental Alienation as experts have stated.

WE HAVE BOTH BEEN ABUSED BY:

1) SINAI TEMPLE which all of a sudden one Saturday morning while I, the loving law-abiding Mother was in line waiting to enter for services; was “forbidden” from coming to the temple for public and private events ever again and they have refused to state why since 2012. Other Jewish Organizations have refused to help me understand why I have been “forbidden” also. 
Reasonable and Caring?
Do they think a law-abiding divorced Mother does NOT HAVE LEGAL RIGHTS?

Rabbi DAVID WOLPE who had therapy sessions with me; the law-abiding Mother regarding the parental alienation and Rabbi RALPH RESNICK who also is aware of my beautiful truthful and moral values and character; both have refused and still refuse to help me reunite with my Son who is celebrating his 22nd birthday tomorrow and also my other two children. 
Reasonable and Caring?
Also Rabbi DAVID WOLPE, Rabbi RALPH RESNICK and others at SINAI TEMPLE refuse to give sermons, write and have discussions, classes and other events informing the community about the epidemic problem of Parental Alienation.
Reasonable and Caring?
Does Rabbi DAVID WOLPE, Rabbi RALPH RESNICK and others at SINAI TEMPLE think a law-abiding divorced Mother does NOT HAVE LEGAL RIGHTS? Do they not care about the wellbeing of the children either whereby ONLY the father should be able to help them financially and emotionally and be part of their life?

2) The law firms who handled the divorce and/or alimony changes: 
a) SEASTROM & SEASTROM; 
b) LAW OFFICES of ALAN SHIFMAN and
c) LAW OFFICE of HARRIS GONZALEZ;
refused and still refuse to help rectify the invalid, incomplete and fraudulent divorce judgment where the value (net worth) of the community estate was never established, many financial and other mandatory document were missing and there was no informed consent for the father to have “sole legal and physical custody” nor was this in the best interest of the health, safety and welfare of any of the Children.

They also refused and still refuse to rectify alimony changes based upon this fraudulent judgment and other information regarding income, expenses and assets which were concealed.
Lawful, Reasonable and Caring or Abuse?
Do they also think a law-abiding divorced Mother does NOT HAVE LEGAL RIGHTS? Do they not care about the wellbeing of the children either whereby ONLY the father should be able to help them financially and emotionally and be part of their life?

3) The law firm THE KIKEN GROUP which removed trust assets from community trusts and somehow many were reclassified from community property to separate property of the husband who controlled the marital finances during the marriage of over 20 years. 
THE KIKEN GROUP not only created the trusts but was designated as an administrator too. They refused and still refuse to explain these acts and help rectify them so the loving law-abiding Mother can receive her 50 percent interest as the law demands. Do they think a law-abiding divorced Mother does NOT HAVE LEGAL RIGHTS? Do they not care about the wellbeing of the children either whereby ONLY the father should be able to help them financially and emotionally and be part of their life?

4) SADDLEBACK CHURCH and PASTOR RICK WARREN; who refused and still refuses to help the loving law-abiding Mother reunite with this Son who is celebrating his 22nd birthday tomorrow and also her other two children. 
Reasonable and Caring?

SADDLEBACK CHURCH and PASTOR RICK WARREN also refused and still refuse to explain what “agreements” they have with the husband MARK F. HASSMAN, after the LAPD contacted the loving law-abiding Mother and told her she must not contact SADDLEBACK CHURCH and PASTOR RICK WARREN because this violates an agreement MARK F. HASSMAN has with them. Could this be “charitable” agreements to hide community property? Could this be an agreement to keep the loving law-abiding Mother and her Children alienated from each other?

Does SADDLEBACK CHURCH and PASTOR RICK WARREN also think a law-abiding divorced Mother does NOT HAVE LEGAL RIGHTS? 
Do they not care about the wellbeing of the children either whereby ONLY the father should be able to help them financially and emotionally and be part of their life?

SADDLEBACK CHURCH and PASTOR RICK WARREN also refused and still refuses to give sermons, write and have discussions, classes and other events informing the community about the epidemic problem of Parental Alienation.
Reasonable and Caring?

5) STEVE MUROW of DIRTONU who is a partner in several joint ventures where the community estate made investments. He and other joint venture partners refused and still refuse to explain and rectify that the law-abiding Mother did NOT receive her 50 percent community property interest in these joint venture investments; despite tax returns and other evidence clearly showing they are community property.
Does STEVE MUROW of DIRTONU and other joint venture partners think a law-abiding divorced Mother does NOT HAVE RIGHTS? Do they not care about the wellbeing of the children either whereby ONLY the father should be able to help them financially and emotionally and be part of their life?

6) MARJI KNITTER and MJ KNITTER who refused can still refuse to disclose information regarding a $225, 000 personal Corporate Guaranty they have with MARK F. HASSMAN. Do they think a law-abiding divorced Mother does NOT HAVE LEGAL RIGHTS? Do they not care about the wellbeing of the children either whereby ONLY the father should be able to help them financially and emotionally and be part of their life?

7) JUDGE CLAUDIA SILBAR who reviewed, signed and then filed the invalid, incomplete and fraudulent divorce judgment (09D002792 Orange County, family law Superior Court) where the value (net worth) of the community estate was never established, many financial and other mandatory document were missing and there was no informed consent for the father to have “sole legal and physical custody” nor was this in the best interest of the health, safety and welfare of any of the Children. 
Lawful, Reasonable and Caring or Abuse?

JUDGE CLAUDIA SILBAR also issued and/or refused to revoke the restraining orders preventing the loving, law-abiding Mother from attending all of her Children’s graduations, birthday celebrations, holiday events, sports games and other events and milestone celebrations if the father who controlled the marital finances and his new wife are present.
Lawful, Reasonable and Caring or Abuse?

JUDGE CLAUDIA SILBAR also granted alimony changes based upon the invalid, incomplete and fraudulent divorce judgment and also WITHOUT having the legally required income, expense and asset information completely and accurately disclosed.
Lawful, Reasonable and Caring or Abuse?
Does she think a law-abiding divorced Mother does NOT HAVE LEGAL RIGHTS? Does she not care about the wellbeing of the children either whereby ONLY the father should be able to help them financially and emotionally and be part of their life?

8) The court-appointed therapist ALAN LIBERMAN who wrote a false report and did not follow protocol in his therapy.
Reasonable and Caring or Abuse? 
Does he think a law-abiding divorced Mother does NOT HAVE LEGAL RIGHTS? Does he not care about the wellbeing of the children either whereby ONLY the father should be able to help them financially and emotionally and be part of their life?

9) CATE SCHOOL which all of a sudden after the loving law-abiding Mother discovered how they were forcing this Son to live as the photographs show, and emails show his father and current wife approved; had “forbidden” her from coming to the school to visit her son unannounced. Hiding abuse?
Reasonable and Caring?
Do they also think a law-abiding divorced Mother does NOT HAVE LEGAL RIGHTS? Do they not care about the wellbeing of the children either whereby ONLY the father should be able to help them financially and emotionally and be part of their life?

10) Of course his father MARK F. HASSMAN and his current wife MIKEL SANDERS-PERSKY who both have restraining orders against the loving law-abiding Mother for NO rational basis or sound reasoning which has prevented her from attending all of her Children’s graduations, birthday celebrations, holiday events, sports games and other events and milestone celebrations if they are present.
Reasonable and Caring or Abusive?

Further, the father MARK F. HASSMAN has been a Chief Executive Officer for over 25 years, received his MBA from Harvard and is also a Certified Public Accountant and refused and still refuses to rectify the invalid, incomplete and fraudulent divorce judgment which is missing the value (net worth) of the community estate which was under his control during the marriage of over 20 years. With all his education, degrees and experience and also been represented by the experienced Newport Beach law firm SEASTROM & SEASTROM, knows or should know that in order to have a lawful divorce and lawful alimony changes; the value (net worth) of the community estate must be established and assets, income and expenses must be completely and accurately disclosed EACH TIME an alimony change is requested.
Reasonable and Caring or Abusive?

Also, many experts have proven that it is in the best interest of children of all ages if they have relationships with BOTH of their parents after a divorce. [http://www.palienation.org/]. This is also common sense because a REASONABLE PERSON OF SOUND MIND WOULD not what to destroy the love a child, teen or young adult has for their Mother or father. This is abuse as the experts have proven.

SO TO MY SON ON HIS 22ND BIRTHDAY:
Why have you chosen not to contact me after all these years? Have you been threatened?
I know you had beautiful moral and honest values so why would you choose to change these values and become dishonest and corrupt?

Corrupt people commonly just BLAME and SHAME others. This is what they do. They will blame you for all the problems and then try to shame you into believing that you are stupid and need them to survive. Don’t believe this manipulation.

You can PRETEND you are happy but deep down, as experts and history have proven; corrupt, immoral people do not have peace of mind and do not know how to love and refuse to learn so they just destroy love and try to control and abuse others. It is a terrible way to live. Just look at your father, is he happy or has a bad temper and is NOT like he was during many years of our marriage until the end?

If you do not stand up and fight the corruption, you become part of it because you ALLOW IT by choosing to ignoring it because this allows it to continue and harm others. I will never do that.

***So, it is YOUR LOSS not mine, if you choose not to contact me and renew our beautiful companionship because I am better off without those in my life who choose to be dishonest and promote corruption. This is just basic REASON and I am reasonable and I also objectively see the facts.

So on this note I want to quote some parts of a small book I used to read to you and your brother and sister titled
“LOVE IS A SPECIAL WAY OF FEELING” by Joan Walsh Anglund.

• Love is the good way we feel when we talk to someone and they want to listen and don’t tell us to go away and be quiet (and I would add; they do not give you ultimatums or yell at you until you agree with them. They instead respect your independent thoughts and want to discuss them.)

• It is the happy way we feel when we save a bird that has been hurt 
(and I would add; and truly help another who has been hurt or just needs a friend, without any ulterior motives.)

• Love is found in unexpected places…it is there in the quiet moment when we first discover a beautiful thing…when we watch a bird soar high against the pale blue sky…when we see a lovely flower that no one else noticed (and I would add; when you are proud of yourself for the values you CONSISTENTLY stand for and your beautiful character).

• Love starts in little ways…it may begin the day we first share our thoughts with someone else (and I would add; someone who has good intentions and is not trying to get to know you so they can manipulate your thoughts and behaviors for their own benefit. That is abuse.)

• Love comes quietly but you know when it is there because suddenly you are not alone anymore and there is not sadness inside you. It is the happy feeling that stays inside your heart for the rest of your life.

So, you know I love you very much; the “You” I remember from 7 years ago. That “You” will always remain in my heart and it is your choice as to whether I will ever have an opportunity to know and love the person you have become during the past 7 years.

Happy 22nd Birthday and I will be thinking of you. Also, please contact me if you want me to get to know and love the person you have become since you do not return my voice messages and I do not know your email address so whether you want to experience again the love of a kind, caring and very enriching Mother with honest and moral values and behaviors is your decision. Happy Birthday!!! Please remember how much I love you; the VERY SPECIAL “You” I remember from 7 years ago.

With that being said from my heart; I want to thank so many for all of your support and spreading the truth which others want to silence. Most of my posts are receiving over 100 hits which shows we are bringing awareness to this abuse called parental alienation and all those involved.
As always, none of this is legal or any other advice, it is just based on my knowledge and experiences.

-By Sara Hassman, Parental Alienation Solutions, Founder;www.PAlienation.org

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