We have Two choices as to how we want to Live our Life; many leaders in pain make the wrong choice

Parental alienation can be used to teach our children and others so we can benefit from our experiences: To begin; a person must realize they have free will to make the choices THEY want and to also realize THEY own their mind.
In other words, no one has the right to tell adults, even their adult children, what to think, say and do and who to associate with. This is control and can be emotional abuse too.

Everyone has to choose for themselves as they grow up and mature how they want to live their life.
We have 2 choices:
1- We can choose to lie, cheat, mislead, use and harm others; including those too young and inexperienced to know better and those trusting us to treat them fairly and do what is in their best interest.

2-Or we can choose to be kind, honest and caring; helping others especially those who trust us to do what is right, even when others are not watching.

Our choices determine our character and reputation.

Often sick, jealous, controlling people with big egos who really hurt inside choose to live life as liars and cheaters taking their pain and anger out on others. They will not choose to address their pain and anger in a responsible way by trying to replace their harmful thoughts, habits and behaviors.
Consequently, many try to tarnish others’ reputation and harm them when they do not do what they want. It makes them feel good to harm others because they feel powerful and in control. This is what many alienating parents have tried to do to many of us kind and loving alienated parents.
***Also, often people in pain and full of anger have buried in their subconscious their harmful behaviors or habits that someone in their past taught them to do; this is called transference or brainwashing.
Responsible adults try to change their harmful behaviors and habits and transform. ***Then instead of thinking how they can use someone for their own benefit like they used to do; they want to now help others. Then they can truly experience happiness and love because they no longer have shame and anger. It is a wonderful and worthwhile transformation.
***Let’s face it; all of us have had habits we needed (or still need) to change and once we do, it feels wonderful.

There is an experience I had recently that I would like to share.
As my website shows; I am so ashamed of the Jewish leaders since they have for about 50 years, deliberately ignored parental alienation while accepting donations and other benefits from the abusive parent. http://www.palienation.org/donation/

But it goes deeper than this. So many Jewish leaders, especially Rabbi David Wolpe; Howard Lesner who is the Executive Director at Sinai Temple where Rabbi David Wolpe officiates and Rabbi Julie Schonfeld who is the Executive Director of the Rabbinical Assembly and has the responsibility of setting behavior and ethics guidelines for many Rabbis and other Jewish leaders; must all be in a lot of pain and suffering terribly.
They are in so much pain and have so much anger that they have not been able to do what is reasonable, responsible or in the best interest of the Jewish community and our society.

I consulted with Rabbi David Wolpe when I first got divorced and was taking anxiety medication to help me cope with the parental alienation. We communicated with emails for several years about parental alienation issues, religious issues, books and other teachings. He is a very bright man. However, I would not date him because he refused to talk and write about parental alienation and I find that appalling and perpetuating the abuse.
I believe this is the true reason as to why I have been exiled from Sinai Temple since October 2012 but; no one in over 2 years will even have a civil and honest discussion with me and instead have blocked my emails and prohibited me from coming to the synagogue. This is not reasonable at all.

Howard Lesner, the Executive Director of Sinai Temple lied to me when he told me I was treated this way because of my website. However, my website was not in existence in October 2012. Also, we have free speech and individual rights in this country. Just because Howard Lesner doesn’t like what someone says on a website does not mean he can just take away their freedom.
The deeper question is why; if Howard Lesner is not in such pain himself, would he even behave this way? A reasonable person who has dealt with their shame and anger and understands the importance of treating others with respect and fairness would want to discuss this. But, he is obviously hiding something which is, I believe, that Rabbi David Wolpe does not want me at the synagogue because I refuse to date him as long as he refuses to talk and write about parental alienation; which appears Rabbis and Jewish leaders are prohibited from doing. There appears to be some secret alliance, conspiracy or unwritten rule that they must ignore parental alienation.

Rabbi Julie Schonfeld must also be in a lot of pain and have a lot of shame and anger she has never dealt with either. For over 2 years she has also refused to help me understand why I have been prohibited from going to Sinai Temple. Does she expect me to just give up my rights and walk away? This would only lower my self-esteem and perpetuate their abusive behavior.
*** If you don’t respect yourself by demanding to be treated with respect and fairness, you won’t be.

Now what about Rabbi David Wolpe? I know he is in a lot of pain because he has told me and his actions show that he is too. Only an angry person in pain would prohibit someone from coming to a synagogue where they officiate because they refused a date. Reasonable, respectful people know that a woman is not their slave and has a right to choose who she wants to date.

It is a sad state of affairs when one of the most prominent Rabbis thinks he is a King and can disregard people’s rights and feelings; even on line.
It is a worse state of affairs when other Jewish leaders like Howard Lesner and Julie Schonfeld; knowingly, intentionally and repeatedly support Rabbi David Wolpe’s harmful behaviors instead of helping him address his pain and anger and learn to not direct it at others.
Is this just another example, aside from parental alienation, showing the Jews have put money over the rights and well being of others? Do the Jewish leaders think Rabbi David Wolpe has a right to act like a King because he has in the past been popular and has attracted many paying patrons for events? (I believe his popularity has been waning.) Regardless, when elitism, entitlement and subjectivity take the place of reasonableness, fairness and objectivity; we no longer have a democracy; we have a dictatorship. Judaism in the US seems to have become a dictatorship as the actions of these Jewish leaders’ as well as many others show.

Regardless, I will stand strong and fight to help end parental alienation so millions of children, parents and families can be reunited. If this means I have to fight the Jews who try to keep the truth about parental alienation hidden while also supporting the abusive parent; then this is just part of the battle.
It upsets me terribly since I am a Jew and the Jewish leaders’ behavior in the US is contrary to Jewish teachings. Abuse, harming others and putting money before freedom, fairness and respect is not part of Judaism. This is terrorism.

We cannot control how others choose to live their life but; we can choose for ourselves and I choose to help millions of children and parents suffering from parental alienation.
If not I, then who?

-By Sara Hassman, Parental Alienation Solutions, Founder; www.PAlienation.org

Parental alienation can be used to teach our children and others so we can benefit from our experiences: To begin; a person must realize they have free will to make the choices THEY want and to also realize THEY own their mind.
In other words, no one has the right to tell adults, even their adult children, what to think, say and do and who to associate with. This is control and can be emotional abuse too.

Everyone has to choose for themselves as they grow up and mature how they want to live their life.
We have 2 choices:
1- We can choose to lie, cheat, mislead, use and harm others; including those too young and inexperienced to know better and those trusting us to treat them fairly and do what is in their best interest.

2-Or we can choose to be kind, honest and caring; helping others especially those who trust us to do what is right, even when others are not watching.

Our choices determine our character and reputation.

Often sick, jealous, controlling people with big egos who really hurt inside choose to live life as liars and cheaters taking their pain and anger out on others. They will not choose to address their pain and anger in a responsible way by trying to replace their harmful thoughts, habits and behaviors.
Consequently, many try to tarnish others’ reputation and harm them when they do not do what they want. It makes them feel good to harm others because they feel powerful and in control. This is what many alienating parents have tried to do to many of us kind and loving alienated parents.
***Also, often people in pain and full of anger have buried in their subconscious their harmful behaviors or habits that someone in their past taught them to do; this is called transference or brainwashing.
Responsible adults try to change their harmful behaviors and habits and transform. ***Then instead of thinking how they can use someone for their own benefit like they used to do; they want to now help others. Then they can truly experience happiness and love because they no longer have shame and anger. It is a wonderful and worthwhile transformation.
***Let’s face it; all of us have had habits we needed (or still need) to change and once we do, it feels wonderful.

There is an experience I had recently that I would like to share.
As my website shows; I am so ashamed of the Jewish leaders since they have for about 50 years, deliberately ignored parental alienation while accepting donations and other benefits from the abusive parent. http://www.palienation.org/donation/

But it goes deeper than this. So many Jewish leaders, especially Rabbi David Wolpe; Howard Lesner who is the Executive Director at Sinai Temple where Rabbi David Wolpe officiates and Rabbi Julie Schonfeld who is the Executive Director of the Rabbinical Assembly and has the responsibility of setting behavior and ethics guidelines for many Rabbis and other Jewish leaders; must all be in a lot of pain and suffering terribly.
They are in so much pain and have so much anger that they have not been able to do what is reasonable, responsible or in the best interest of the Jewish community and our society.

I consulted with Rabbi David Wolpe when I first got divorced and was taking anxiety medication to help me cope with the parental alienation. We communicated with emails for several years about parental alienation issues, religious issues, books and other teachings. He is a very bright man. However, I would not date him because he refused to talk and write about parental alienation and I find that appalling and perpetuating the abuse.
I believe this is the true reason as to why I have been exiled from Sinai Temple since October 2012 but; no one in over 2 years will even have a civil and honest discussion with me and instead have blocked my emails and prohibited me from coming to the synagogue. This is not reasonable at all.

Howard Lesner, the Executive Director of Sinai Temple lied to me when he told me I was treated this way because of my website. However, my website was not in existence in October 2012. Also, we have free speech and individual rights in this country. Just because Howard Lesner doesn’t like what someone says on a website does not mean he can just take away their freedom.
The deeper question is why; if Howard Lesner is not in such pain himself, would he even behave this way? A reasonable person who has dealt with their shame and anger and understands the importance of treating others with respect and fairness would want to discuss this. But, he is obviously hiding something which is, I believe, that Rabbi David Wolpe does not want me at the synagogue because I refuse to date him as long as he refuses to talk and write about parental alienation; which appears Rabbis and Jewish leaders are prohibited from doing. There appears to be some secret alliance, conspiracy or unwritten rule that they must ignore parental alienation.

Rabbi Julie Schonfeld must also be in a lot of pain and have a lot of shame and anger she has never dealt with either. For over 2 years she has also refused to help me understand why I have been prohibited from going to Sinai Temple. Does she expect me to just give up my rights and walk away? This would only lower my self-esteem and perpetuate their abusive behavior.
*** If you don’t respect yourself by demanding to be treated with respect and fairness, you won’t be.

Now what about Rabbi David Wolpe? I know he is in a lot of pain because he has told me and his actions show that he is too. Only an angry person in pain would prohibit someone from coming to a synagogue where they officiate because they refused a date. Reasonable, respectful people know that a woman is not their slave and has a right to choose who she wants to date.

It is a sad state of affairs when one of the most prominent Rabbis thinks he is a King and can disregard people’s rights and feelings; even on line.
It is a worse state of affairs when other Jewish leaders like Howard Lesner and Julie Schonfeld; knowingly, intentionally and repeatedly support Rabbi David Wolpe’s harmful behaviors instead of helping him address his pain and anger and learn to not direct it at others.
Is this just another example, aside from parental alienation, showing the Jews have put money over the rights and well being of others? Do the Jewish leaders think Rabbi David Wolpe has a right to act like a King because he has in the past been popular and has attracted many paying patrons for events? (I believe his popularity has been waning.) Regardless, when elitism, entitlement and subjectivity take the place of reasonableness, fairness and objectivity; we no longer have a democracy; we have a dictatorship. Judaism in the US seems to have become a dictatorship as the actions of these Jewish leaders’ as well as many others show.

Regardless, I will stand strong and fight to help end parental alienation so millions of children, parents and families can be reunited. If this means I have to fight the Jews who try to keep the truth about parental alienation hidden while also supporting the abusive parent; then this is just part of the battle.
It upsets me terribly since I am a Jew and the Jewish leaders’ behavior in the US is contrary to Jewish teachings. Abuse, harming others and putting money before freedom, fairness and respect is not part of Judaism. This is terrorism.

We cannot control how others choose to live their life but; we can choose for ourselves and I choose to help millions of children and parents suffering from parental alienation.
If not I, then who?

-By Sara Hassman, Parental Alienation Solutions, Founder; www.PAlienation.org

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