When you love someone you do not try to make them feel insecure by criticizing them so they lose confidence in themselves. Criticizing a person, INCLUDING YOUR OWN CHILDREN, in an unloving way makes them easier to control, brainwash and manipulate which a loving person would not do to anyone.
Instead, a person with love in their heart and with loving intentions would kindly try to explain how to do something in a more positive way. For example explaining that learning from their mistakes and the mistakes of others is important as long as they apologize to anyone they harmed.
As I explained to my children; “people can teach you what to do as well as what not to do.”
A few years before my divorce proceedings began in 2008; my still legal husband Mark Hassman started to CONSTANTLY CRITICIZE ME, especially in front of our Children.
Not only was this very painful for me; it also taught our Children that it was “acceptable” to treat their Mother in this abusive fashion. EVEN ON THE DR. PHIL SHOW, it is clear that not only my Children but also my still legal husband Mark Hassman believed all their problems were MY FAULT and that I NEVER DID ANYTHING RIGHT. ***I was to be blamed for everything and they had no responsibility for any problems because I caused them all.
HOWEVER, as the full time stay-at-home Mother combined with my Children’s accomplishments I obviously:
1) Taught my Children many positive lessons and
2) Corrected them in positive ways because they thrived while I was part of their life, until the well-documented Parental Alienation began.
Thus, to all alienated Children and others too; if a person tries to criticize you so you feel insecure, let that BE A WARNING that this is a way to make you vulnerable so you can be more easily controlled and manipulated.
TELL THEM to stop treating you this way because this is a form of abuse.
A LOVING PERSON wants to give others CONFIDENCE and help them reach their beautiful and special potential, not tear them down and make them feel insecure so they can then control, brainwash and manipulate them. This is not Love, this is abuse and also terror.
Do not allow yourself to be abused and terrorized. Thus, if a person refuses to stop criticizing you in a way which makes you feel insecure, get away from them.
As always, none is this is legal advice, I am just sharing my experiences to help others as the voice of OUR REVOLUTION to End the epidemic problem of Parental Alienation in the United States, Israel and all over the World.
-by Sara Hassman, Founder, www.PAlienation.org